Lessons From Children

I love you. You love me.

And we're a happy family.
Hug me. Hug me.
Kiss me. Kiss me.

Tell me that you love me.


I smile bitterly and thoughtfully whenever I sing this song to my kids at school, sometimes it could bring smokes to my eyes and make them teary. If only people would love like children I think this could be a better world to live. For kids don't judge people on how they look, they don't have criteria to gauge on how they will love you. They don't look on what you have but for what you are. Simply love you for what you are. For them beauty is mirrored in the heart. Children are easy to pleased and its effortless to make them happy. They smile easily for a simple gestures of affection or jokes, they love to laugh all the time and it's so infectious. How I wish I could be like them.


Right inside the four corners of the classroom my mind is drifting, looking at the children, wondering if they have a happy family. Do they have good parents? How the love story of their moms and dads started? Are their fathers real men? What is a real man? The role of a real man is to protect and provide but it's so sad to see numbers of real men in this society fluctuating. Do they have happy and loving environment at home? Lots of questions ticking and swimming inside my head, most of them unanswered.


Ah, if you want to see a genuine smile see it in children's faces. If they're happy - they're happy. If they're sad - they're sad no pretense. And children are so sweet it's so touching. Right after the class they will swarm me and hug me or ask me to give them high fives! We have tons of lessons to learn from kids. They argue and fight sometimes but amazingly after few minutes, they're friends again. Thus, children don't know the word grudge and they know how to say sorry,  too bad for adults who don't know the word "I'm sorry!" Kids are eager to learn. They learn mostly from their mistakes, they're not perfect but they keep on trying to do things correctly. They learn especially through imitation hope we can be good examples to them and be a source of inspiration.


Allow me to share this passage from my favorite book, All I Really Need to Know I  Learned  In Kindergarten by Robert Fulghum:


Share everything.
Play fair.
Don't hit people.
Put things back where you found them.
Clean up your own mess.
Don't take things that aren't yours.
Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody.
Wash your hands before you eat.
Flush.
Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
Live a balanced life -learn some and think some
and draw and paint and sing and dance and play
and work everyday.
Take a nap every afternoon.
When you go out in the world, watch out for traffic,
hold hands, and stick together.
Be aware of wonder.
Remember the first word you learned-
the biggest word of all
LOOK!

When The Tears Fall

Tears cleanses the soul, but gee I can't cry. I want to cry but I can't, maybe I'm done crying or no more tears to fall. Maybe my eyes are so tired from weeping... or maybe this pain is so debilitating that my tear glands fail to produce tears. Pain from betrayal of love, trust and friendship... Shattered dreams and illusions.  I hope this will cheer you up when torrents of tears fall in your eyes.




I've had questions, without answers
I've known sorrow, I have known pain
But there's one thing, that I'll cling to
You are faithful, Jesus You're true.


When hope is lost, I'll call You Saviour
When pain surrounds, I'll call You healer

When silence falls, You'll be the song within my heart.


And I will praise You, I will praise You

When the tears fall, still I will sing to You
And I will praise You, Jesus praise You
Through the suffering still I will sing.


When hope is lost, I'll call You Saviour
When pain surrounds, I'll call You healer
When silence falls, You'll be the song within my heart


Oh yes, You are good to me

You've always been good to me
So trustworthy.


When hope is lost, I'll call You Saviour
When pain surrounds, I'll call You healer
When silence falls, You'll be the song within my heart.


And I will praise You, and I will praise You
When the tears fall, still I will sing to You
(I will sing to You) I will praise You,
Jesus praise You through the suffering
Still I will sing.


How faithful and true

Sustain me through and through
You are hope and truth
You're my spring of living water
You're my spring of living water.


In the lone hour of my sorrow
who springs never fail be faithful and true
Like...
Like a spring it never fails
You're my spring never fails.
(This song is performed  by Newsboys)


I'm dying to cry but my eyes are dry. Someone stole my tears.
I need to find Him, this tear thief who holds my tears.
If only I could get my tears back and He will wash my soul
with my own tears it will be cleansed and eventually healed.
Please, God heal me now. I need You!!!


God will wipe away all tears from our eyes.
There will be no more death, no more grief
or crying or pain. (Revelation 21:4)


God bless us all! :)
 

Opposite of Love

I’m back to writing, I think expressing one’s self through writing is very therapeutic. I do believe everything happens for a reason and every pain; every hurt won’t be wasted but a blessing in disguise because this excruciating, this heartrending pain will be a fountain of wisdom for one’s self and to others. Join me in my journey and let me share to you my notes from love and life

What is the opposite of love?


For some, the opposite of love is apathy, for some it’s hate but for me the opposite of love is not HATE but USING OTHERS.


This world is teemed of users and parasites, it’s residing and lurking in friendships, or in relationships- it’s so rampant, very universal. For some, love and people are commodities. It’s so sad when people would only befriend you to get something from you; it's more poignant when people love you not for who you are but for what you have.


Some think that people are banks any time they could loan without paying. Some thought a person is a listening machine, they will cry their hearts out to you, ask for your advice but when you need someone to listen to your problems they’re gone! Some would only remember you when they have problems but when they’re happy they’re million miles away and they will make excuses that they’re busy. Some will befriend you because they can benefit from it. But worst some will love you because they need you in order to get what they want!


Life is not fair even in the field of love… well it doesn’t mean that; when you show kindness to people they will be kind to you; when you help people they will help you, too. It’s not a guarantee that if you love and be faithful to someone he/she will love you back and will be faithful to you!!! Real love is expecting nothing in return. Love doesn’t cost a thing and it’s free. To need someone is a form of co-dependency, and using someone is a kind of parasitism which is unhealthy to relationships.


What people must learn in life is to love people and to use things, not to use people and love things!!! People have feelings they can get hurt, things have no feelings but they get broken sometimes so are hearts. People come into our lives for a reason maybe to teach us invaluable lessons about love and life. Life is all about loving… so give real love, no phony love please! In this life, we are not gauged according to material possessions we have but how much genuine love we give!


So, the next time you will come across users or toxic people run for your lives, save your heart from pain.


Just always bear in mind: There’s no user if nobody wants to be used!

Unfaithful

Prayer is the voice of faith.

Are you expecting someone to be faithful to you? Is there someone faithful nowadays??? It seems that faithfulness is out of people’s vocabulary, this word is getting obsolete. Faithfuls are doomed to extinction; therefore faithful people are endangered species!



“All throughout history, God is the only person who has been faithful to all His promises. Yet, so often we place our trust in the promises of human beings who often fail to keep them. And then, the more perverse reality is that we are willing to trust them again even after they have proven to be unreliable.” (Sigh!)


What is faithfulness? Webster defines it as; being true to one’s word, promises, and vows; steady in allegiance or affection; loyal. Old folks warned us not to associate with people who don’t know how to keep small promises because for sure they don’t know how to keep big promises. So, before you believe someone’s sweet master piece: “I love you infinitely!” Think twice and take note, is he/she knows how to keep simple promises? Is he true to his words? Don’t be deceived he/she might be faithful or faith fool!!!


Faithfulness starts in one’s self. Are you true to yourself? If you do, there would be no pretense on your part, you will show the real you though it some kind of hard thing to do. Before you declare your vow of love to someone you have to analyze your feelings first before you say it. Because being genuinely loved in this world is the most ultimate happiness for a person to experience but if love is not real, it’s tragic!!!


How to save faithful’s endangered species? Start being faithful to yourself. Be true to yourself. Get real!!!


Lord, teach me how to be faithful by being faithful to You first! Before I get angry to people who are untrustworthy please remind me of my own unfaithfulness to You. When promise seems to fail, reminds us we can trust in Your loving kindness.


Amen!


“Place your TRUST in GOD!"

Fidelity is the surest sign of love.

The Sweetest Revenge

Why sometimes, it’s so hard to say SORRY? Is it because when you say sorry you acknowledged that it’s your fault, that you did something wrong? Why for some SORRY is the hardest word to say?

Few weeks ago I scolded a high school student for making faces in my class. One day, I was so surprised when he came to me after class and told me in his awkward English “I’m sorry”, I smiled thoughtfully because it was so unexpected; at least he knows how to say sorry and I can see he is sincere about it. Ambivalent feelings engulfed me, I’m happy at the same time I felt indignant hearing this word SORRY!


Somebody hurts me so bad and worst of all left me hanging in the outer space without explanation and now I’m expecting sorry from him? Am I crazy? I don’t need his sorry it won’t change the past! But the word sorry has a power; it can heal you and me!!!


If we can’t have this magic word from someone who hurts us… well we can say sorry and start forgiving ourselves, because by doing so healing process will start. Remember forgiving is tantamount to healing. We need to forgive because forgiveness means letting go of the past. Yes, it won’t change the past but it does enlarge the future. Sometimes mere sorry alone can’t mend some relationships but it can dissolve anger and soothe a shattered pride and heal a broken heart. There is no love without forgiveness and there is no forgiveness without love. To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness. And now I know why God is The Great Lover of all, He has a great heart to forgive –that’s why He has unconditional love for us!


Don’t wait for people who hurt you to come and say sorry to you. Some people are not that strong and great enough to say sorry, to admit that they’re wrong; it’s a real man and real woman act! Maybe because some people thought that saying sorry is a weakling’s act but no they’re wrong… only great and superior people could say a heartfelt sorry, only great souls can forgive. Start forgiving yourself, grieve and move on… If you can’t forgive; if you can’t let go of the anger or grudge you will be the prisoner…forever. Do you think it’s fair? They hurt you and will make you their prisoner!!! If you feel the hurt and pain and can bear no more… let go and let God!


Sometimes we have to stop feeling like a victim, be responsible of your actions only then we can get rid of this ugly feeling called self-pity. Remember we’re not VICTIMS but VICTORS through God’s mercy. For me, in saying sorry it doesn’t matter who is right or who is wrong… we have to say sorry too if people offend us especially when we reacted badly with the offense.


Let me start it, sorry friends and loves ones especially for the unheeded words of warning and advices, for the love and care I responded lukewarmly. Sometimes, only in tears you can see rightly, seeing who loves and cares you the most. For the people I hurt “I’m Sorry!”

Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody.

Someone said there’s no sweetest revenge as forgiveness… oh sweet revenge I love you now come and embrace me! How about you why don’t you take revenge now and relish the sweetness of forgiveness???