How to Win Friends and Influence People

B-O-R-I-N-G. What I'm boring?! How dare him to call me boring! I was chatting with this guy whom I began to like but  calling me boring is a crime. Wait, he didn't call me as me boring, he said what I always talk about was boring but then I was offended. Did he have any iota of wisdom? Did he ever know that, I was sharing to him an expensive idea? I bought the concept for thousands of bucks I shared it to him for free and he can't appreciate it! I was indignant and staunched myself never to chat with him again even he would do the initiative to start a friendly conversation. Not until I read a great book about human relationship.

 Let me give another example, I was asleep and then the adjacent door closed with a big bang. I jolted up awake and was so annoyed I even wanted to give a bit of tongue lashing piece to the culprit. But then I remember the tips Mr. Carnegie have shared to me. Let me share to you, Dale Carnegie's book How to Win Friends and Influence People.


Fundamental Techniques In Handling People


• 1 - "If You Want to Gather Honey, Don't Kick Over the Beehive"  Don't criticize, condemn or complain.


• 2 – “The Big Secret of Dealing with People”
Give honest and sincere appreciation.


• 3 - "He Who Can Do This Has the Whole World with Him. He Who Cannot, Walks a Lonely Way" Arouse in the person an eager want.


Six Ways To Make People Like You


• 1 – “Do This and You'll Be Welcome Anywhere”
Become genuinely interested in other people.


• 2 – “A Simple Way to Make a Good Impression”
Smile. Your smile is a messenger of your good will. Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it.


• 3 – “If You Don't Do This, You Are Headed for Trouble”
Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.


• 4 – “An Easy Way to Become a Good Conversationalist”
Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.


• 5 – “How to Interest People”
Talk in terms of the other person's interests.

• 6 – “How To Make People Like You Instantly”
Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely.

 Twelve Ways To Win People To Your Way Of Thinking

• 1 - The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.


• 2 - Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."


• 3 – If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.


• 4 - Begin in a friendly way.


• 5 - Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.


• 6 - Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.


• 7 - Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.


• 8 - Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.


• 9 - Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.


• 10 - Appeal to the nobler motives.


• 11 - Dramatize your ideas.


• 12 - Throw down a challenge.

Nine Ways To Change People Without Giving Offence Or Arousing Resentment

• 1 - Begin with praise and honest appreciation.

• 2 - Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.

• 3 - Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.

• 4 - No One Likes to Take Orders. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders

• 5 - Let the Other Man Save His Face. Don’t correct openly.

• 6 - Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."

• 7 - Give the Dog a Good Name. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.

• 8 - Make the Fault Seem Easy to Correct. Use encouragement.

• 9 - Making People Glad to Do What You Want. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

This is a very interesting and wonderful book to read. It gives me a lot of realizations and reminders about dealing with people. If only people are all good in human relationship, I think there will be no war and disputes. So now I chat with the guy who called me boring. I always remember that everyone is looking for importance. In dealing with people always forget the word “I” and everything will be all right. As for the door that always closes with a bang, I’m tempted to confront the person and ask in my sweetest tone, “Do you have any problem with the door?” and this would dissolve any trace of annoyance and anger in me and would make me burst into laughter.

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"Every person you meet is your superior."